Who hasn't been hurt by the actions or words of another? Perhaps a parent constantly criticized you growing up, a colleague sabotaged a project, or your friend has let you down, again! Everyone has their own story of disappointment in another person or a community. The question is, what do we do with our emotions? How do we balance our anger or resentment with the prayer we say together each week in worship, “forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors”? Is forgiveness really practical?

Jesus went to the heart of the matter with his instruction on forgiveness in the Lord’s Prayer. He must have known that if we don't practice forgiveness, we will be the one who pays most dearly. Wounds can leave lasting feelings of anger, bitterness, even festering retaliation. Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and set anger aside.

We know that the act that hurt or offended can’t go away, but forgiveness can lessen its grip and allow freedom from the control of the person who caused the harm. Forgiving is the gateway to feelings of understanding, empathy, and compassion for the one who has caused the hurt. Praying to forgive doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done. The prayers allow God to be present, offering a peace that helps us go on with life in hope, gratitude, and joy for the future as we embrace a new direction.

Recently, a friend of mine from high school made me very angry by betraying my trust and embarrassing me in a situation. I was deeply hurt because we have shared a long and special friendship. After several days of stewing about this, I decided to put my faith into action. I contacted her. First, I sent a text and then I called. The first step was difficult, because I was still mad. But when we began to talk, we both felt immediate relief. The two of us have been able to talk about the situation and see it from all sides. This has brought understanding, healing, and even laughter for both of us.

Forgiveness is at the very heart of the gospel. Colossians 3:13 says, “Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” A good reminder for us. Each day the sun rises, bringing new opportunities for a bright future of hope and joy with others, with God’s leading. Is there someone you need to reach out to in the spirit of reconciliation?

Together on the journey,

Louise